Its interesting to me the big gap between traditional success and the appearance of it. Appearances of success work to a certain level, but any truly and very successful person has that success come from within..
If madness is trying the same thing over and over and expecting different results then a lot of us are mad.
We try different approaches to success on the outside and fail to understand that it is what is within that is the most valuable asset that we have.
OUR unique ideas, points of view, and inner strength.
We choose professions that we are unskilled at because we want people to think we are "cool".
We choose relationships that are bad for us because we think other people will see us as worthwhile for being next to that person.
We neglect that still small knowing of what we need in our truest of hearts for what we think we want and what we think others will be attracted to.
What is consider successful looking:
1. Good Job
2. Top in you field at your job
3. Wife/girlfriend or Husband/boyfriend
4. Nice and organized house or apartment and car
5. Ducks in a row // happy&&content
6. Direction and goal in life
7. Not addicted to anything
8. Honest and hard working
9. Lots of friends//people who respect you
Its also interesting that these can ALL be faked and lied about or half-truthed.
Its REALLY tempting to be that person, to half truth yourself into being the typical model of success to make yourself feel better about yourself. To appear as successful as those around you who are trying to appear to be the same thing. haha
Its somethings I've been struggling with.
But in my heart I know that success comes from a successful foundation from within and a ton of hard mileage put in.
If you have a job that looks successful but hate it.. or are only in the job because it has cache or some sort of good image.. how successful is that for you as an individual?? Or you lie about your job to sound as if it bigger or better than it truly is. Sure.. it might look great, but come on.
Or if you have wife or husband or girlfriend or boyfriend.
Merely being in a relationship might look to others as though you are successful at relationships..
but always having some one is not the same as the quality of those relationships.. Do you honor, love and respect each other? In action not words?
When the going gets tough?
Do you support and challenge each other?
Those who are single might be more successful at practicing those things in regard to how they respect and honor themselves in waiting for that one.
Or being happy and contented.. if you appear to be so it only matters if what is reflected on the outside is also within.
Sure.. appearing happy is probably better than being sour, but if you are hurting on the inside, solutions need to start there.
If you are unhappy a majority of the time, its no time to find things outside of yourself to fulfill you..
you'll end up
hurting your career potential
ruining relationships
mess up goals
This is the time to take action and figure out what is wrong from within.
To be, what some would consider as selfish.
A lot emotional issues shouldn't be left un-dealt with just because your pride gets in the way.
You may appear weak in the beginning but you will find TRUE strength in the end, not just the appearance of such.
Weakness on the inside will only lead to weakness in everything and anything you try to do on the outside.
Don't be fooled into thinking as long as you can develop great habits of lying about who you are, that people will believe what is still bull shit.
Even I can't believe my own. haha
Not everything is left up to circumstance. You can reach out and MAKE it different and if you have run out of ideas on how.. that is when you should talk to an objective counselor. The amount of things you will learn about yourself in this process will produce strategies to be successful in every endeavor you may undertake after that point! It will be monumental!
Why is this hard?
1. You must take accountability for your mistakes.
2. You must see your involvement in them.
3. You can't play the victim anymore. ( of life, of God, of other people's mistakes )
All these are just an evasion of putting in the hard work. To becoming a truly strong individual.
There is no failure, because in what society sometimes sees as "failure" you know as the first step to a phoenix rising. You should feel no shame for being weak and being honest about that. EVERYONE feels that way.. at least at one point in their lives.
The test of a person of potential strength is that they don't let it stay there. They do something about it. They take action. They don't feel miserable in their situation they see the opportunities to overcome!!! because I now whole-heartily believe that ANY challenge ANY hardship and ANYTHING you have faced in the past, present and future can overcome. you can be 100% victorious.
